Author: Dylan Moore

Ever feel like everything—everyone’s emotions, every problem in the room, every little mistake—is somehow your fault? Like if you don’t hold it all together, everything might fall apart? That’s not just you being ‘too nice’ or ‘overly responsible.’ That’s trauma whispering in your ear, convincing you that safety comes from control and over-functioning.

Many of us were raised to believe that productivity equals worthiness. That taking a break is laziness. That there’s always more to do, and stopping—even when we need it—feels like failure. But here’s the truth: Rest isn’t something you have to earn. Rest is a necessity, not a luxury.

Reparenting is about giving yourself the love, patience, and care you may not have received growing up. It’s about learning to nurture yourself, set boundaries, and build the self-trust that should have been instilled in you from the start.

You want to believe people mean well. You want to feel safe relying on others. But deep down, there’s a part of you that hesitates. Maybe you overthink people’s words, waiting for the moment they let you down. Maybe you keep a safe distance, never fully letting people in. Maybe you assume if you don’t depend on anyone, you can’t be hurt.

Because for many of us, conflict wasn’t modeled as something healthy. Maybe growing up, disagreements led to yelling, rejection, or emotional shutdowns. Maybe you learned that keeping the peace—even at your own expense—was the only way to feel safe.