You’re Not ‘Too Independent’—You Just Got Tired of Relying on Unreliable People
Dylan Moore, Founder Balanced Analysis LLC and Breaking Barriers University
“I don’t want to owe anyone.”
“It’s easier if I just do it myself.”
“Every time I depend on someone, I end up disappointed.”
Sound familiar?
You’ve been praised for being self-sufficient. You’ve been admired for your strength. You’ve been told you’re “intimidating,” “too independent,” or “hard to get close to.”
But here’s what no one sees: That independence was never a flex—it was a fortress. Built from every time you reached out and got silence. From every “I’ve got you” that turned into “You’re on your own.”
So if trusting others feels impossible, know this: You’re not cold. You’re not broken. You’re just tired of being let down.
How Independence Stopped Feeling Empowering
I used to take pride in doing it all. No help. No handouts. No vulnerability.
I told myself I didn’t need anyone—and I believed it. Until I hit a wall. And suddenly, “I’ve got it” became “I’m drowning,” but no one could hear me because I’d trained them not to look.
That was the moment I realized: I wasn’t strong. I was scared.
Scared of being disappointed. Scared of being a burden. Scared that if I asked for help and no one came, I’d have to face how alone I really felt.
But healing began the moment I stopped confusing solitude with strength—and started letting people in.
When Independence Isn’t a Choice—It’s a Shield
If asking for help feels more dangerous than doing it all alone, it’s not about pride.
It’s about protection.
✔ You learned vulnerability came with consequences.
✔ You were rewarded for silence and punished for need.
✔ You decided that if support meant inconsistency, you’d rather do without.
✔ You made self-sufficiency your safest bet—because everyone else felt like a gamble.
But here’s the hard truth: What kept you safe once may now be keeping you stuck. And you deserve to live beyond survival.
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Reclaiming Connection Without Losing Yourself
You don’t have to leap straight into dependence. But you can take one step closer to interdependence.
1. Start With Small Asks
Let someone carry a bag. Send the “Hey, can I talk?” text. You’re not weak—you’re practicing trust.
2. Feel the Discomfort—and Stay
Letting people show up will feel foreign. Don’t mistake discomfort for danger. Stay with it.
3. Challenge the Old Beliefs
Needing others doesn’t make you needy. It makes you human.
4. Redefine Support in Your Terms
Support doesn’t mean surrender. You still get to lead—you’re just not walking alone.
5. Let Good People Surprise You
You’ve met the unreliable. You’ve survived the disappointments. Now let someone new show you what safe feels like.
Strength Is Not the Absence of Need—It’s the Courage to Own It
Let me speak this directly to your spirit:
You are not “too independent.” You are brilliantly, fiercely protective of your heart—and that makes sense. But you don’t have to keep building walls to stay safe. You can build bridges instead.
Because real strength? It’s not in isolation. It’s in allowing love to meet you where your walls used to be.
So… who taught you that asking made you weak? And what would happen if you finally let that story go?
Together we rise. Together we heal. Let’s rise fierce into our new life of personal power and freedom.
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Hi, I’m Dylan Moore — and I’m here to help you move past the pain and the trauma that have stood in the way of your healing.
For over 30 years, I’ve guided women through emotional recovery and personal transformation. As an Author and Cognitive Behavioral Specialist, my mission is to empower you with the tools and support you need to break free from the past.
I founded Balanced Analysis LLC and Breaking Barriers University to make healing practical, approachable, and real. I take complex psychological concepts and turn them into clear, actionable steps—always with compassion and care.
Now, it’s your turn to release the hurt and step into the greatest version of who you were always meant to be. And I’ll be right here to walk that path with you.
