You Weren’t ‘Too Sensitive’—They Just Didn’t Want to Deal With Your Feelings
Dylan Moore, Founder Balanced Analysis LLC and Breaking Barriers University
How many times have you been told you’re too sensitive? That you’re overreacting? That you need to stop being so emotional? Maybe you started to believe it—started to wonder if your feelings were too much, if you needed to toughen up, if you were the problem.
But here’s the truth: You were never too sensitive. They just didn’t want to deal with your emotions.
Your feelings weren’t the issue—their inability (or unwillingness) to handle them was. People who dismiss your emotions aren’t offering constructive feedback; they’re avoiding accountability. And if you’ve been gaslit into believing your sensitivity is a flaw, it’s time to unlearn that lie.
Let’s talk about why people minimize emotions, why your sensitivity is actually a strength, and how to reclaim your right to feel without apology.
When I Realized It Wasn’t Me
I may not have been called “too sensitive” in the same way many women have, but I have had my feelings dismissed. I’ve been in conversations where I opened up, only to be met with indifference. I’ve shared frustrations, only to be told I was “making a big deal out of nothing.” And for a long time, I internalized it—I wondered if maybe I was being dramatic.
One day, I confided in someone about something deeply painful, and their response was, “Why are you still upset about that? Just move on.” In that moment, something clicked. The problem wasn’t that I felt too deeply—the problem was that they weren’t emotionally available enough to meet me there.
If you’ve ever felt like your emotions were dismissed, I see you. You’re not too much. You just deserve people who can hold space for your feelings, not run from them.
The Danger of Emotional Dismissal
Being told you’re “too sensitive” isn’t just frustrating—it’s damaging. It teaches you to doubt yourself, to suppress your emotions, to prioritize other people’s comfort over your own truth.
Why do people do this?
- They lack emotional intelligence. Some people genuinely don’t know how to process emotions—so they deflect or shut down instead of engaging.
- They don’t want to take responsibility. If your feelings stem from their actions, it’s easier for them to dismiss you than to acknowledge their impact.
- They were conditioned to avoid emotions. Many people were raised to believe emotions are a weakness, so they minimize them instead of facing them.
- They benefit from your silence. If they make you doubt your own emotions, they never have to change their behavior.
When your emotions are constantly dismissed, it teaches you to mistrust yourself. You start questioning whether you’re overreacting, whether your feelings are valid, whether you’re even allowed to feel at all. And that? That’s not okay.
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How to Reclaim Your Right to Feel
If you’re ready to stop apologizing for your emotions, here’s how to start:
1. Recognize Emotional Gaslighting
If someone consistently tells you that you’re overreacting, dramatic, or too sensitive, pause and ask yourself: Am I really overreacting, or are they avoiding accountability? Just because someone dismisses your feelings doesn’t mean they’re invalid.
2. Stop Trying to ‘Prove’ Your Feelings Are Valid
You don’t need to explain or justify your emotions to anyone. If something hurt you, it hurt you. That alone makes it real. Your emotions are not up for debate.
3. Seek Out Emotionally Safe People
Surround yourself with people who don’t just tolerate your emotions but welcome them. People who say, “I hear you,” instead of, “You’re overreacting.” Emotionally safe people won’t make you feel like a burden for feeling.
4. Set Boundaries with Emotionally Dismissive People
If someone repeatedly shuts you down, it’s okay to disengage. You don’t have to keep opening up to people who refuse to meet you where you are. Protect your energy.
5. Own Your Sensitivity as a Strength
The world needs more people who feel deeply, not fewer. Your ability to connect, to empathize, to experience emotions fully? That’s a gift. Stop treating it like a flaw.
Rising Fierce and Free
At the end of the day, being sensitive isn’t the issue—being surrounded by people who don’t respect your emotions is.
You were never too much. You were never too emotional. You were never too sensitive.
You just needed people who were emotionally mature enough to hold space for your feelings instead of running from them.
So tell me—what’s one way you’re reclaiming your emotions today? Drop a comment, share your story, and remember: You deserve to be heard, seen, and valued exactly as you are.
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Hi, I’m Dylan Moore — and I’m here to help you move past the pain and the trauma that have stood in the way of your healing.
For over 30 years, I’ve guided women through emotional recovery and personal transformation. As an Author and Cognitive Behavioral Specialist, my mission is to empower you with the tools and support you need to break free from the past.
I founded Balanced Analysis LLC and Breaking Barriers University to make healing practical, approachable, and real. I take complex psychological concepts and turn them into clear, actionable steps—always with compassion and care.
Now, it’s your turn to release the hurt and step into the greatest version of who you were always meant to be. And I’ll be right here to walk that path with you.
